A to Z Challenge – U
Meeting the needs of the other person has a lot to do with UNDERSTANDING what their needs are. They may become clear during one of your communication sessions, or you may work out what they are based on what you can see in front of you. D/s is about being aware and being observant. It is a dynamic where you are both open with each other so this builds up a good idea of what the other person might need. It is about being caring and thoughtful and sometimes it even involves some guesswork and some trial and error. In A Dom in D/stress I explain that you may not always get it right, but in a relationship where there is love and understanding and a desire to put each other first, it is hard to mess it up completely as long as you are trying your best.
I have written already about my thoughts about labels and about the need to find your own way with all of this so my second U is for UNIQUE. A healthy relationship is about being able to share your similarities and play to you strengths but also to grow as an individual. In the posts Opinions and Original? I look at what this means. In my opinion there is no ideal; to work towards trying to be something that doesn’t suit you will not make you happy and I don’t think in the long run it will help anyone else either. After all, we are not all the same shape and size and you can’t fit a square peg into a round hole.
My third U is for being USED. Sometimes I feel a need to be overwhelmed and used and I covered this when I wrote about Anal and Fisting in the letters A and F. I also wrote Love me Hard and A need to be used which explains what I get from that feeling of belonging and existing for HisLordship in a more physical and almost primal way.
I hope that you have understood my letter U. Check tomorrow for the letter V and to see the rest of my A-Z, click here: A to Z Challenge.