A to Z - H

Head, Humiliation and Happy Ever Afters

A to Z - HA to Z Challenge – H

They do say that the most important sex organ is the brain and for me that is definitely true. What goes on in my HEAD is a recurring theme in many of the posts written here on my blog, although I have chosen to link It’s all in the head – the psychological side of sex and A submissive mind as those two focus on the sorts of difficulties I can have. I know from speaking to others that I am not alone in struggling to switch off but also that I seem to be more resistant to it than some. I really think that the other things going on in your life have a huge impact on the way you respond so that is partly why I have found this last while tricky. What I can say with 100% certainty is that D/s has 100% improved things in this area. Although I am frustrated that I can’t always get out of my head as quickly as I might like to, I am always able to get there in the end and that is when I am truly free, So H is definitely all about the head for me.

My second H is HUMILIATION and is also something that I have mentioned quite a bit. It is one of those topics that is difficult to discuss, and sometimes even more difficult to incorporate into play as what works and is really hot and a positive trigger for one, could have the absolute opposite effect for another. I talk about this in more detail in the post Humiliation and also list some of the things that I find humiliating in an erotic way. I do know that it is one of the things that triggers my submissive mindset but that there is a fine line between it working on not. It seems I am psychologically complex! Pffffffff!

My final H is HAPPY EVER AFTERS, which makes a good follow on from my F post where I warned about fairytale endings. In reality, I do feel a bit like I am living the dream and I have chosen two posts, What I wanted from D/s and What is D/s really about? which explain a bit more about why I think that and what I mean by it. Life will never be perfect and something this good doesn’t come without a lot of hard work, but I have honestly never been happier and can’t really think of anything much that I would want to change about the way our relationship works. Of course someone else looking in might question me as one size does not fit all, but I am certainly living my own happily ever after.

I hope that my letter H has held you interest. Check tomorrow for the letter I and click here to see the rest of my A-Z, click here: A to Z Challenge.


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  1. Hmmmmm, Here’s to Hoping that you see the Huge impact your well Honed post of the past have in thinking through the Harmony of your Home while Helping others Hear their own Heads.
    Happy Hunting for Ingenious “I”s!

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