Head, Humiliation and Happy Ever Afters

A to Z Challenge – H

They do say that the most important sex organ is the brain and for me that is definitely true. What goes on in my HEAD is a recurring theme in many of the posts written here on my blog, although I have chosen to link It’s all in the head – the psychological side of sex and A submissive mind as those two focus on the sorts of difficulties I can have. I know from speaking to others that I am not alone in struggling to switch off but also that I seem to be more resistant to it than some. I really think that the other things going on in your life have a huge impact on the way you respond so that is partly why I have found this last while tricky. What I can say with 100% certainty is that D/s has 100% improved things in this area. Although I am frustrated that I can’t always get out of my head as quickly as I might like to, I am always able to get there in the end and that is when I am truly free, So H is definitely all about the head for me.

My second H is HUMILIATION and is also something that I have mentioned quite a bit. It is one of those topics that is difficult to discuss, and sometimes even more difficult to incorporate into play as what works and is really hot and a positive trigger for one, could have the absolute opposite effect for another. I talk about this in more detail in the post Humiliation and also list some of the things that I find humiliating in an erotic way. I do know that it is one of the things that triggers my submissive mindset but that there is a fine line between it working on not. It seems I am psychologically complex! Pffffffff!

My final H is HAPPY EVER AFTERS, which makes a good follow on from my F post where I warned about fairytale endings. In reality, I do feel a bit like I am living the dream and I have chosen two posts, What I wanted from D/s and What is D/s really about? which explain a bit more about why I think that and what I mean by it. Life will never be perfect and something this good doesn’t come without a lot of hard work, but I have honestly never been happier and can’t really think of anything much that I would want to change about the way our relationship works. Of course someone else looking in might question me as one size does not fit all, but I am certainly living my own happily ever after.

I hope that my letter H has held you interest. Check tomorrow for the letter I and click here to see the rest of my A-Z, click here: A to Z Challenge.