The Whisperphone

Sometimes in life there are lovely moments that make you think. I tend not to write too much about many of these for fear of ‘outing’ myself; rather I keep my personal details so very personal that I can still be missy and not the other me. I am going to make an exception for the ‘whisperphone’ as I think that it represents something that I feel strongly about, and that is perception. Trying to work with people to shift their perception is a big part of what I do for a living and trying to keep my own perception of events the way I want them to be is also something I strive to do, so it is a topic that is significant to me. 
So this morning I went to visit one of the primary schools that feeds to us. We do this as part of our transition programme and we take a couple of junior pupils back to their old school to answer questions and reassure the somewhat nervous new recruits. Unfortunately they were very quiet so having answered all the questions fully, I left these youngsters together in the hope that they would ask the things they really wanted to know. I ventured next door and was lucky enough to be invited to listen to a small boy do his reading to ‘Miss’ rather than on his ‘whisperphone’.  Keen to hear him read, I was also interested in the mysterious whisperphone. Was this a new piece of technology I had missed? Was it the latest piece of equipment for the 21st century classroom?
On closer inspection I discovered that it was a small piece of plastic tubing (HisLordship informs me the technical name is a 22 millimetre push-fit poly elbow!) The idea was to hold one end to your mouth and the other tend to your ear and then you can read out loud and hear the words without distracting the rest of the class.  How cool.  And it worked because I tried it while I read ‘The Day that Digger went to School.’ It meant that some pupils could sit and read out loud, but really it was only in a whisper, and the others could be involved in other activities. Both groups were able to concentrate on their own task and it did look like a cartoon telephone too which was also pretty smart.
It made me think how so much of life is in our perception and that really things always have the potential to be so much more than you first think. We become so tuned in to what others have and what is current that we forget the simple things that can be used in other more inventive ways. And I sometimes think that is what we are doing with the way we use the power exchange in our marriage. We are not really changing anything or getting rid of anything. We are not even really adding anything new. We are just choosing to see things in a certain way and respond to them in a way that enhances our own experience.  We are taking what was already there and tapping into it so that it can reach its potential.
D/s is really about going back to basics. At the heart have to be the core foundations that are important to any relationship and layered on top of them are the actions and reactions which reinforce them so that they can grow and develop.  The whisperphone could be marketed as a great new invention or an in-vogue educational tool to help practice reading in school, but actually it is what it is; a piece of tubing being used for another purpose. It is available, affordable and under your nose all the time so really it is just about seeing what is there for you and capturing the potential in it.  And that is what I feel we are doing here with our relationship.  We are taking what we had before and we are building on in and enhancing it. It isn’t about the cuffs and the vibes and the impact toys, it is about two people being respectful and open with one another and trying their best to keep the needs of the other at the fore.

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  1. I love the message you have provided here, missy! The concept of perception is fascinating. I teach about perception in some of my courses and I love to give the example of how perception can change based on something as simple as height. Tall people literally see the world from a different view from shorter people. My tall friend (he’s 6’8″) once told me that he always notices how most people do not clean the top of their refrigerators…lol. That is just a silly, simple example…but we all view the world and our experiences through our own unique lens. Sorry…I am rambling…this is a topic that I love.. 🙂
    I also really like what you have to say about building upon one’s relationship and enhancing it. I feel like D/s has given us a whole new layer which is improving the foundation of our marriage. Great post! Have a wonderful weekend 🙂

    • Thank you Nora. I love the topic too – I think that how you see things can often be key to the way you feel. Dust on the top of a refrigerator is either there or it isn’t but sometimes when you are talking about thoughts and feelings there can be an element of choosing how you want to view something. Some poeple just don’t see the richness or the potential which is there.

  2. This is wonderful! I agree, it’s all about perception. I also believe that how we think is how we feel, and how we feel is how we behave. So perception, or the way we think about things, makes a huge impact on everything else we do.

      • Decided I would share this.
        She will be waking up to this as a text…
        Life is perception…
        and capturing the potential in it.
        It is creating the Love that gives us purpose.
        It is “being.”
        It is loving and caring for others.
        It is putting someone else’s needs, hope and desires in the forefront…
        It is heartbreak…
        but, with each new crack in my heart,
        it enlarges… expands,
        and God fills the empty spaces…
        I Love You, Babygirl??
        Be kind to this tired heart,
        and I promise to do the same…

  3. I’ve been on a few D/s and DD forums and site and it always surprises me what a novelty some (who have had struggling relationship) find respect and kindness toward their partner to be. D/s and DD are just tool, if you don’t have the proper knowledge already they won’t improve your relationship. But if you do have a good relationship foundation they can be a beneficial and even fun enhancement. Perception is very important, and I think it’s important to have the right one. Great post, Missy!

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