Sensory Deprivation

Sensory play is a huge part of any sexual activity. From touch, to sight, to taste, to smell, it all works to heighten the experience; but within BDSM sensory deprivation can play an even bigger role.  When you lose one sense the others immediately become enhanced, meaning that the experience becomes more intense. And through the withdrawal of certain senses and the overloading of others, you are able to reach another level altogether.

For anyone like me who’s head is full and hard to shut down, it can work really well. Wearing a blindfold will put me into a more submissive mindset almost immediately. Suddenly the pauses between the action seem longer, my ears strain to hear what is going on and I can become a little disorientated.  This confusion of the normal order of things not only leaves me feeling an increased sense of vulnerability and a loss of control, but also an excitement and anticipation of what is about to come.

Restricting your movement is a powerful factor in forcing you to focus on the sensations you are feeling. You are set in place, powerless to move, and as your mind travels across your body, your skin is alert just waiting for the touch. This means that when the touch finally comes it feels so much more intense than it would usually. It not only means that you become easily confused, unable to recognise familiar objects as they are used to stimulate you, but also that you are open to suggestion or ‘mind fuck’.

Your brain becomes overloaded as it tries to make sense of what it is experiencing and translate it into something it understands. Removing the ability to talk, for example through gagging, will further heighten this, as will ear plugs or headphones which will affect your hearing. However, it is not all about removal; over stimulation through too much noise, confusing sounds, or the use of scent can also play a key role. In the same way, music can help to set the scene or add to the atmosphere that you want to create.

So once your senses are well and truly engaged you are at the mercy of your Dominant who will take full advantage of your heightened state. He may use touch from the very gentle silk of a scarf to the sharp indentation of a wartenberg wheel. He may use temperature from the cold sting of metal to the heat from the dripping wax of a  candle. To be honest ,it all becomes a huge scramble for me until it gets to the point where I stop trying to make sense of what I am feeling and just become lost at his mercy. Sir would also usually introduce toys to stimulate, tease and torment me sexually as well as through my senses and may well force orgasms from me until he is ready to use me himself.

As with any BDSM play it is always essential that you think about Safety. When you are lost to the sensations and can’t make sense of what you are feeling you have to know that your Dominant is watching you closely and is in control and keeping you safe.  This is not only an important part of the scene itself, but also of your aftercare. So now that I have well and truly put myself in the mood, I can only hope that HisLordship reads this and feels the same. Maybe then my next post can be a ‘curtain up’ on the details of our sensory scene.